Nothing ever goes away, until it has taught us what we need to know.

Empathy is part of my spiritual journey and the oneness found has eased my suffering.

“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” Dalai Lama

Today is a new day and we hope you all find things that make you all more of the person you want to be and ways to get the things you want in your lives.

“Believes that everything happens for a reason., so don’t have regrets… coz without the bad things, you wouldn’t be the strong person you are today” N.P.L

The recovery of our inner spirit is in the process not in the outcome and is all about what we are doing in this moment.

BALANCE

Having balance in our lives sounds like a great thing to shoot for and finding True Happiness is best accomplished by having several different things we are working on at the same time. Hopefully we can allot enough time to the things and people we value in our lives to grow healthy and fulfilling connections with them all. The things we do during our day can be guided by the things we are inspired to do.

Not neglecting things or people to a point where we become disconnected from them requires we find a balance of our time and how we spend it.  We must always remember the more time we spend on one thing the less we can spend on others. “Quality not quantity” is a good rule to incorporate into our lives to create balance. Being fully present in the moment and in the time we spend with them, builds a deeper connection with them. Knowing the things we can and need to do to have them the way we want makes this easier and we will find True Happiness even when we don’t have what we want because we have taken steps to have them.

Living a balanced life requires a need to account for the use of our time, not only to ourselves, but to others if we are neglecting spending time with them. We do only have so much time in a day and we cannot do too many things at once or we will not be fully present in the moment alienating others because we seem preoccupied. Spending quality time with people will make the relationship better or at the very least maintain our connection with them. We may not be able to restore our cars to a showroom state but we can spend a little quality time cleaning it or maintaining them, showing that we value them and find True Happiness in the fact that we have remained connected to them. Finding a balance between maintenance and growth in or toward having things or relationships we want in our lives requires time and can be hard at times, but is worth it in the long term.

The demands of outside influences can seem to dominate us at times and make us feel as though the scales are tipped too far to one side. When we feel like this things usually are out of balance. We can overcome this feeling with proper thought and action, knowing that the things we are doing is what we need to do right now and we need to give them the attention they deserve. Our lives can be brought into better balance when we are finished doing the things we need to do that are in line with the direction that we want. We just do what has to be done now and know the area we need to work on most will be what we will focus on as soon as we can. The things that we know are important to us and what needs to be done to create a deeper connection to them, provides balance in all areas of our lives when we take some kind of action to work on them.

Balance comes when we can find a way to be at peace with both good things and bad. We know that things don’t always work out ideally, yet we can find the ways we have benefited from the way they turned out. Living our lives with purpose and staying focused on what we are doing in this moment can create balance when we know all the different things we want  and what we need to do to have them. When we can fully devote our attention to one thing knowing that the other things will get our attention in their time our lives seem to just take place and we remain in a state of True Happiness because of it.

Just how much attention does one area deserve? This question can only be answered when we know the things that are important to us and how connected we are to them. When we feel we need to work on an area we probably do. Sometime things come up that we need to take care of right away or people or things start presenting themselves as needing attention and some cannot be put off any longer, this happens when we let things go too far and have not maintained balance in our life. Balance comes from maintaining connection with the things that are important to us.

Here’s an idea get your spouse, children or friend to help you clean out the car with you, this way you can work on connection with them at the same time. This kind of quality time does wonders for creating balance in our lives. Even better, exchange your time for theirs, then you will be helping them have something they want, as well as spending more time with them deepening your connection with them. Nothing is more rewarding than to help another person and deepen your connection with them in the process.

Balance only seems to be a problem when there is a problem. It is our feeling of not having control that brings up the problem of balance in our lives. We don’t look at balance as a problem when we are doing the things we need to be doing and things seem to be going alright. When we are doing the things we need to be doing and things seem out of control we are usually too quick to blame it on a lack of balance in our lives. Most of the time it is only one or two areas that need some attention to regain control of them and we will feel like we have restored the balance we feel we lack. Once we regain a little control over those areas and things start to balance out a little, we need to reevaluate the things that are important to us, the things we do and how we spend our time. When we do, we look for the things we can do to deepen our connections to the areas that brought about the unbalance. Correcting the actions that caused the out of control feelings will make us feel better. When we cannot correct them, we do what we can, to stay connected. Even when we don’t feel good about a situation we can remain connected to it, by being responsible, doing the things that we can do and doing the things we need to do.  

Dealing with new things that come into our lives and new things we take on, is easier when we know why we have them in our lives in the first place. We need to understand that it is not the things that are going on that create unbalance. It is devoting too much time to one particular thing that can diminish our connection with other things. If we get a new car and just park the old one, it will fall into disrepair and create an imbalance between the two. The same goes for relationships, when we devote too much of our time to on one the others may suffer. Restoring balance is easier when we continue to value the things we have already, take care of them as they need to be cared for or get rid of them. This may sound cruel in the case of relationships but may be necessary if we don’t want to hurt them or be put into a position of imbalance that is only evident when it becomes a problem.

When we want to continue to have them in our lives a little maintenance can go a long way. We are only out of balance when we have too much going on and as a result something suffers. When we become aware of it, we have a choice to make, either devote more attention to what is suffering or block out the feelings that arise from having an imbalance, until we do something about it. Balance is not hard to achieve it just needs to be thought of in the right way to be realized.