Everybody Needs a Life Coach and Why

Success in life can only be determined by each individual person and the things that determine success for each person depends on the things that they want out of life. Some people view success as making a lot of money, having great job, having a lot of possessions or having recognition from others. Others may view success as having a loving family, giving to or helping others, or just paying their bills on time. Success comes to us all in different areas of our lives and we are our own worst critics when it comes to whether we are successful or not.

Some people may say who cares what other people think about me and the way I live or choose to live my life, or if I am successful in their eyes. If you are one of those people then you really need to read on… Ask yourself, “When I look in the mirror what do I see, what kind of person am I, and do I really feel that way? People that think that way usally have something that they are hiding or that they really feel they are not successful in some area of their life and that others may find out about and not approve of. Again we are our own worst critics. When we take a hard look at who we are and want to be and the things we want and need, we find the things we need to do to be successful (in our minds) and the ways to do them.

Different things motivate different people and all of them are fear based. I will not go into fears in detail, except to say. Ask yourself, “Are my actions directed by a fear of poverty, criticism, loss of love, ill health, old age or death. When we look at motivation this way we see that everything we do is rooted in fear. Understanding the things that we do and the reasons we are motivated to do them is not always what we think about when we do the things we do.

As we go through life we become creatures of habit creating them, changing them to suit us and breaking them. We become so ingrained in our habits that we loose perspective of how they are affect our lives. Let’s look at a couple scenarios of habit, one what we would consider a worst case and one that may seem not all that bad. A person with an addiction (alcohol or drugs or fill in the blank_______) becomes so used to doing what they do, their body and mind knows nothing other than what it feels like to do what they do. Now, a person wakes up every morning, goes through their morning routine (habit) to get ready for work gets in the car and drives to work. In both cases the actions of each become automatic, sure there are different thing that may happen each day but both are guided by habit. Ask either one what they did three days ago and their answer would be the same, I did what I normally do to get to work in the morning/ I did what I normally do to take care of my addiction. The control that habit has over us is hard to see until it causes what we would term as a problem.

Knowing and clearly defining the things that we want and the habits that we have that are moving us closer to or keeping us from those things, put us in a position to look at all the options for obtaining them. When we look at all our options we can then put together a plan of action(s) that will move us closer to having what we desire. Establishing positive habits and removing the negative ones that have been holding us back is the way that we get the things we want.

The manifestation of the things we want comes in the form of inspiration, or what some might call divine guidance, and the attraction of that guidance is brought to us through constant positive thoughts and actions. Our motivation to get the things we want and live the life that we want, must be pure and right to attract the proper inspiration from “All that is”, kept at a constant vigilant level in order for the proper guidance to manifest. It in not enough to just ask, believe and receive we have to be open and willing to take action when we receive inspiration or proper direction of a step or action we need to take.

That is where a life coach comes in. Having someone with an outside perspective to help us evaluate where we are, the things we have done in the pastas well as look at the things that we want and help to evaluate the ways that we think we should go about getting them gives us the upper hand in making decisions that come from the inspiration we receive. When we are taking action that we feel is inspired we need to make sure that those things we do, are in our best interest of our goals for what we want for our life. We spend enough time doing things that are not in line with our goals, that do not move us closer to the things we want and that we are just doing them out of a need to just do something.

Like the coach of sports team a life coach helps us come up with a game plan for winning at the game of life. They evaluate how we are playing and make adjustments or substitutions as necessary as if we are the team and the things we need to do to have the life we want are the players. Coaches always do what is in the best interest of the team they motivate the team and sometimes trade players for better players. Sometimes all a player needs is a little help breaking or changing a bad habit or adjustment in the way they play. Just like a sports team without a coach would be an mess, we need someone to direct us or at the very least to help us with the plans (the players) we have to get what we want (to win).

If the sports coach example does not convince you then look at it this way. Even with a great idea and plan to get something done the most successful people, run their ideas past someone who they confide in, get assistance in development of their plans of action, or they associate with others who have or do what they want. The last thing is motivation and accountability the coach is someone that has a vested interest in your success thereby will do what ever they need to do to motivate you and keep you on track. When you have someone who has helped you in finding out and clearly defining what you want and in the planning of actions you need to take you end up with a greater sense of responsibility to follow through with the things that you need to do.